I have to say (sadly) it’s been a long time since I’ve truly celebrated Valentine’s Day. For the last few years, the holiday has always fallen on the first day of or during my children’s school break. We’re usually leaving on vacation or headed somewhere for the week, so my husband stopped sending flowers. Now … this is sad for more reason than not receiving flowers. I had to train him to send the flowers in the first place and now the habit has been broken. What? Did I really say I had to TRAIN my man to send me a Valentine’s gift?
Yes! Ladies, not all men are born or raised knowing what to do on Valentine’s Day. Not all men are like the picture perfect specimens we write and read about in our books. What!? Blasphemy, I know. But true. Come on, admit it. Our men (if we have one in our lives) aren’t always perfect. Isn’t that partially what the appeal of Romance Novels are all about? The good news (for some of us) is that many men can be taught to behave in certain ways. I know it always shocked me that even though he was surrounded by radio ads (even on his sports stations) to buy gifts for women on Valentine’s Day, he wouldn’t do it. Once I explained, once he saw my dad in action, he caught on … to the flowers, at least.
Gifts? I have to admit we buy our own. From early in our marriage we realized we liked to buy what we wanted when we could. So we’d say to each other, hey this is my (upcoming) “name the holiday” gift from you. It works for us. I’m sure it’s not for everyone. I bet many of you love the surprise of what’s in that box, whether it’s chocolates, flowers (which I like getting no matter what just because it says, “I’m thinking of you”) or jewelry etc. Honestly? Even a card means a lot to me because it says, I thought of you and walked into the store to buy you a card.
Hey … it’s the little things that count!
So tell me about that special person in your life (if you have one at the moment). Does he send flowers or buy gifts? Or do you need to nudge (shove or elbow) him into it? Did he always know or did you need to teach him? I refuse to believe I have the only man out there who needed a little … ::ahem:: training. Comment for a chance to win an e-Copy of DARE TO LOVE & a $ 10 Amazon Gift Card!
HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!
N.Y. Times and USA Today Bestselling Author Carly Phillips has written over 30 romance novels with contemporary characters and small town settings that today’s readers identify with and enjoy. She’s a writer, a knitter of sorts, a wife, and a mom to two daughters (16 and20!) and two crazy dogs (a 1 year old Havanese named Brady and a 4 year old wheaten terrier named Bailey). In addition, she’s a Twitter and Internet junkie and is always around to interact with her readers. Carly lives in Purchase, New York and would love for you to like and follow her on the ‘Net!
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