Here’s a question that I have been asked a lot: Ashley is a very determined woman with a solid career. Did you face some of the same issues in your career? What advice would you give to women that feel the need to be it all? (Wife, mother, and career driven) Yes, there is a very real correlation between Ashley and me. I loved working and I loved being a wife and mother. I didn’t want to live in the shadow of my husband and I love him dearly. I wanted something for me, not for my kids, not for my husband. I wanted to maintain my own identity. I think many career women and mothers feel similar feelings. We love our families, spouses, significant others, our pets; we’re thankful and blessed for their presence in our lives, yet we want a piece of the world that still reflects us. This is the conflict in The Reluctant First Lady. It’s how one woman works through her dilemma. Women have asked me the second part of this question many times. How did I balance it all? How did I do it all? The truth is somewhere between the lines. I’ve managed…