I don’t know if this ever happens to you, but as a romance writer I often have family and friends anxious to tell me of their latest romance dilemma. From the perspective of most people, romance writers are thought of as the go-to person for love advice because we know how the guy can get the girl. But romance writers do not have all the answers when it comes to love, even though, we do have the ability to create heroes who can fly through the air, rule over kingdoms and woo women, in only a few hundreds pages. So when a friend of mine told me that her husband had given her stainless steel pots and pans for her birthday, and that she couldn’t believe how she could marry someone who has no sense of romance, I just shrugged. It was not exactly the reaction she was seeking. Then I said to her, “What did you tell him you wanted? Did you tell him you wanted pots and pans?” After mulling it over for a few seconds, my friend replied, “Well, not exactly.” And right there was the beginning of the dilemma. So I shared with her what I…